In these Alchemical Power Couple Retreats, we share different ideas, concepts and techniques to explore going deeper into the heart of our relationships. We use the term alchemical because alchemy is an ancient spiritual practice used to turn our “lead into gold”. When we each turn inward and turn our own “lead into gold”, and then we both bring our “gold” to the heart of our marriage, magic happens. We use the term Power Couple to describe the synergy that happens when we come together in this magical way, where 1 + 1 = 3!
Our intentions for the various retreats, be it an evening or weekend retreat, is to create the space and help support couples:
We do this by inviting guest couples who we recognize as being a Power Couple, ie. working together in a synergetic way, to share their journey and knowledge with us all. We invite them to share what works and what did not work for them over the years, how they navigated the difficult times, and how it is they are working together in the world today. We bring in various guest speakers to share ideas and techniques that couples might find helpful and perhaps incorporate into their lives or relationship if it resonates with them. We bring in fun entertainment and delicious meals.
We offer individual and group retreats. We offer evening “date nights”, one day and weekend retreats. All retreats are open to everyone; both same and opposite sex couples.
To learn about us see bottom of page.
This retreat is for couples that are already deeply committed to each other and are interested in building on their cohesion. This is not a counseling weekend. The depths of our hearts are infinite! So there is ALWAYS deeper to go in any relationship. So we will explore going deeper into the heart of our own relationships.
And NO, this is not about having to talk about and share your emotions with the group unless you wish to!! It is about having a nice weekend away with your partner and should something come up for you and you wish to discuss it with your partner, that is up to you.
There will be drumming, guided visualization meditations, guest speakers and guest power couples, beer and BBQ night, and more! It is about relaxing and having fun with each other!! All participation is optional, yet strongly encouraged. If at any time you and your partner wish to sit out and go for a break or walk instead, you are safe to do so. And you are invited to interact with other couples as much or as little as you wish, as this is your weekend!
We just suggest that each couple consider coming with open hearts and open minds, or at least consider doing so at some point during the weekend, and dare to be more open and vulnerable with each other. And you do not need to worry about being vulnerable with the group. As with everything, safety comes first!! We will be discussing what makes a safe space so that we can trust our selves and our partners to go deeper.
The investment in your relationship for the weekend is $550/couple plus tax, and includes Saturday evening entertainment, and all snacks and all meals (Friday evening dinner, Saturday breakfast, lunch and dinner, and Sunday breakfast and lunch.)
This retreat will be located at Otter River Farms in Southern Ontario, 11km from Port Burwell which is on Lake Erie. Accommodation is optional, yet encouraged, and would be an additional cost – choices vary from $30 – $160 per couple. These range from camping on site, a bedroom in the guesthouse, on site bunkies, to lovely rustic private off grid cabins near or in the forest. First come, first served. More on Otter River Farms cabins, guesthouse and wilderness camping.
Alchemy is the ancient practice of transformation, that is, turning “lead into gold”. Now of course this is not about turning actual lead into gold, rather it can be understood as turning something that is lack-luster like lead, into something that is sparkly and shines like gold! It is a self transformation practice. So perhaps adding some shine and sparkle to an already comfortable relationship! We can do this by together going deeper into our hearts and the heart of the relationship.
Here we are referring to synergy!!
Synergy is the creation of something new and whole. It is the result of an interaction between two or more things, and when combined, produce a greater effect than would be normally expected. It is 1+1=3!! And the power of the interaction, the synergy, is often unexpected and unpredictable! So why not see what happens when we open to and invite synergy into all of our relationships? And perhaps see what “new” can be created in our relationships and therefore our lives.
Registration– 4pm to 6pm
7pm – 9pm
Welcoming Session– Opening circle; establishing group safety;
Guest speaker – Derek Scott, IFS therapist
9am – 12pm (with 30 min break at 10:15)
Session– Guest Speaker Derek Scott IFS therapist
1:30 – 2:30pm
Session connecting session – guided meditation
3 – 5pm
Session connecting session – guided meditation
7pm – 9pm
Saturday evening entertainment– Sheila Horrell – Deep Dreaming Group Drumming
9am – 12pm
Session– connecting session plus guided meditation
1:30 to 3:30 pm
Session– Guest Power Couple – Aku Dunyo Richter and Conrad Richter of Richter’s Herbs
* all guided meditation are just 10 to 20 mins long at the most.
We are so excited to have Derek come and join us this weekend to share his knowledge and experience that helps to facilitate compassionate communication, both within ourselves but also with our partners.
“Who (else) is in this Relationship?
You love your partner, you are committed to being witgh them, yet sometimes it’s like you get taken over by a part of you that gets mad at them, sees them as wrong, perhaps controlling/manipulative… and that can lead to escalating conflict and/or old patterns that you can get stuck in. Sound familiar?
Have your solutions been to get them to change? To change yourself? To threaten to leave?
What if there was another option?
What is that part of you that gets mad at them was a part of you that is protecting you? What if it was protecting some vulnerability in you? And what if it were possible to connect with that vulnerability in a safe and loving way… and to heal it?
Chances are if you could do that the angry part would be able to relax; the dance changes.
During this weekend you will have the opportunity to learn about the various parts of us that engage in and get triggered by our intimate relationships. You may discover that you have a rich and engaging inner life that you can share with your partner if you so choose.
The model of the personality that we will be working with is the “Internal Family System” – an evidence-based model that is revolutionizing the world of psychology and psychotherapy and is based on the recognition that our personality operates as a system of “parts”.
For a brief introduction please go to this link: http://www.derekscott.co/videos/and click on the video “Understanding the Personality System”.
I look forward to meeting you,
Derek is a registered social worker and certified IFS (Internal Family Systems) therapist with an international private practice via skype based in London Ontario. He has worked in the field of counselling/therapy for 35 years. He is a popular guest lecturer at the University of Western Ontario and has presented at numerous national and international conferences. He is a published author writing in the are of the Internal Family Systems and grief.
Derek’s personal and professional experiences with multiple loss and burnout have taught him the value of attending to his own parts’ needs and he brings these values to his work with professional caregivers. He balances his work life with time with his 12 year old daughter and his three dogs.
Aku and Conrad are going to share their journey together. Like all marriages, they too have experienced ebbs and flows. They are going to share with us what they have learned works for them and what has not. They are also going to share their work that they do together. And how they navigated as they have raised their family. For more information on Richters Herbs see www.richters.com
Aku Dunyo Richter
Aku is a member of the Ewe tribe of West Africa from the village of Dagbamete, in the Volta Region of Ghana. The daughter of a village priest who is also a prominent traditional psychic herbalist, Aku moved to Canada to join her husband, Conrad Richter of Richters Herbs, in 1996. She was a member of Kekeli, an African traditional drum and dance ensemble based in Toronto. She is the greenhouse manager of Richters Herbs in Goodwood where she lives with her husband and three children. In 2013, Aku was initiated as Queen Mother of her village in Ghana by the elders in an elaborate ceremony.
Conrad Richter is president of Richters Herbs. He has been involved with Richters since its inception in 1967 when he was still a child, helping in the greenhouses and in the fields after school and on weekends. His interest in herbs took flight when he helped his father prepare the first Richters herb catalogue in 1970. He has worked on every Richters catalogue since. Through his efforts many herbs new to gardeners in North America have been introduced for the first time. Conrad has served on the boards of the International Herb Association and the Ontario Herbalists Association. He also served as director of a Canadian registered charity for 25 years. He has a Master of Science degree in botany from the University of Toronto.
Sheila is going to lead us in a fun evening of drumming and music together.
After studying percussion with various drummers here and internationally, Sheila has been facilitating workshops and Drum Circles for many groups in Southwestern Ontario, including schools, universities, camps, nursing homes, conferences and agencies.
The experience of introducing new drummers to the ease and joy of music making with the drum has been a prime motivator for Sheila’s continued success. There is nothing like witnessing someone relaxing into their own rhythm and having fun contributing to the music of the whole drumming community.
For more info on Sheila visit http://www.sheilahorrell-play.blogspot.ca/
For more information Alchemical Power Couple Retreat contact Christine at firstname.lastname@example.org
5:30 pm to 10:30pm ish
Join us for this nourishing, entertaining, educational and relaxing night out together.
There will be a nutritious dinner, guest speakers Cheryl and Doug Lester will be joining us to share their humour, experience and knowledge, as well as Suzanne Grigg who will be sharing herself and her talents in a fun interactive entertainment circle in the old barn!
Should you wish to extend your date night, you are welcome to rent a cabin, or camp out and enjoy your stay longer at Otter River Farms. 🙂
Cost: $145 plus tax per couple (in advance due to catering)
Register: please contact us at
“Our Drum Circle will be a community with a mission and that is to create beautiful drum songs together. That will involve getting quiet, listening, discovering how we can fit in and what we can offer for the good of all. We practice these skills to make a magical and beautiful drum song and then we take these skills to our relationships.
Please bring your drums, other percussion instruments and your joyous, open hearts.”
Suzanne’s teaching career has spanned more than 40 years as a high school physical education teacher, a fitness professional, a dance teacher, a yoga instructor, a personal trainer, a reiki practitioner, a drum circle facilitator, a mother, a good friend, a grandmother….a full and wonder-full life. With this comes gratitude and an eagerness to share.
“The Power of Partnership – It is only in relationship that you can fully know who you are and how you show up. Through sharing one of our recent ‘learning opportunities’ (…okay, it was a spat!), we will help you use some of your own ‘relationship experience material’ to gain awareness about how individual preferences, experiences, (and perhaps idiosyncratic quirks!) contribute to the dynamics of your relationship…and how, together, you can use those things to learn more about yourself and each other, as well as strengthen your partnership.”
Doug and Cheryl Lester
Doug and Cheryl bring years of personal and professional relationship learning and on-the-ground experience. They are parents, step-parents, and partners, as well as professional life, leadership, and relationship coaches. They help people gain awareness, new perspectives, and skills that enhance the ability to show up more fully and effectively. Their goal is always to help you move forward with purpose. The light and lively style of this dynamic duo will affirm, inspire, and (sometimes) challenge you. 😉
Now authors and self-leadership coaches, Cheryl and Doug, have also had senior leadership positions, written curriculum, led international workshops and coached with leaders in over 50 countries.
Difference Makers Circle™ (formerly Eagle Tree Leadership) – co-founded and operated by Cheryl and Doug —helps people connect meaningfully and pragmatically to the sources of their unique individual and/or collective purpose and potential. www.differencemakerscircle.com
We have been together for 25yrs now, and MOST of it has been good. But there have been times, like all relationships, when life has gotten in the middle of our marriage. After the initial “honeymoon period”, stressors like young children, other family members and in-laws, financial constraints, heavy work loads, managing a home and family, are just a few examples that we had to navigate, much like many relationships do. With much work, we came to a place of comfort and felt we managed these stressors fairly well. Yet, we knew that we could have more than just a comfortable marriage.
We also realized that as our children were getting older they would eventually move out to go to college and university. We also knew that they were often the glue that bound us together and got us through the difficult times. Those bonds and glue were going to be changing, and we questioned what would be the bonds left between us and how well were we going to navigate this transition time. This is when we started exploring going deeper into the heart of our marriage.
The depths of our hearts are infinite. So there is ALWAYS more to explore in any relationship. In this exploration process we discovered new connections within our selves but also between us. These new connections created bonds that now keep taking us deeper and deeper into our own hearts which then leads us deeper into the heart of our relationship together. And as we do this our relationship is becoming richer and more nourishing as time goes on and our love for each other continues to grow. Being together is a delight, and we now choose to spend as much time together as possible.